comment Add Comment

Balance: Clarify values and your commitment, dedicating time to study, faith and/or meditation

We are all in a state of entropy and only consistent and continued refinement and attention to Physical, Intellectual, Social and our Spiritual selves is vital to retain balance. To ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement in ourselves and our relationships, learn to take care of yourself.

4. Spiritual.

Focus on clarifying values and your commitment, dedicating time to study, faith and/or meditation.

Focus on getting better, rather than being good. Think improvement rather than thinking that you ought to be perfect. If you appreciate that change is inevitable, therefore focusing on getting better through enhanced awareness and careful exploration of issues and by developing and improving skills to deal with those issues we remain flexible and allow for error and therefore alleviate anxiety.

Enjoy the journey as well as the destination.

Reference:

  • Covey, S, 1989: Principle Centred Leadership.

Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

comment Add Comment

Balance: Participate in community events and work on at least one area where you can give service to benefit others

We are all in a state of entropy and only consistent and continued refinement and attention to Physical, Intellectual, Social and our Spiritual selves is vital to retain balance. To ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement in ourselves and our relationships, learn to take care of yourself.

3. Social Enjoy a rich private life, give service and show integrity. Participate in community events and work on at least one area where you can give service to benefit others. Be it via a volunteer organisation or individual seeking support (i.e. mentoring), connect and assist others.

In May each year, thousands of events are held across the country to say thank you to the 6 million Australians who volunteer their time. National Volunteer Week (NVW) is the annual celebration to acknowledge the generous contribution of our nation’s volunteers. # NVW2020.

Many organisations draw upon the generous support of many who give up their valuable time and share their knowledge and resources.

If you are not already, make a profound impact in your community and on society, through giving a little time. Participate in a community event or work on at least one area where you can give service to benefit others.

Reference:

Covey, S, 1989: Principle Centred Leadership

Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

comment Add Comment

Balance: Stimulate the right side of your brain and engage in creative endeavours

We are all in a state of entropy and only consistent and continued refinement and attention to Physical, Intellectual, Social and our Spiritual selves is vital to retain balance. To ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement in ourselves and our relationships, learn to take care of yourself.

2. Intellectual
If we appreciate that change is inevitable, therefore focusing on getting better through enhanced awareness and careful exploration of issues and by developing and improving skills to deal with those issues, we remain flexible and allow for error and therefore alleviate anxiety.

Consider reading, meditation, visualising, planning and writing. Stimulate the right side of your brain, engage in creative endeavours and take time out to think outside the everyday. Research suggests that 15 minutes a day makes a huge difference to your well-being and can stimulate the brain to learn in new and different ways. Enjoy the journey as well as the destination.

Reference:

  • Covey, S, 1989: Principle Centred Leadership

Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

comment Add Comment

Balance: Start slow and build up to make exercise a regular part of your day and week

We are all in a state of entropy and only consistent and continued refinement and attention to Physical, Intellectual, Social and our Spiritual selves is vital to retain balance. To ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement in ourselves and our relationships, learn to take care of yourself.

  1. Physical

Exercise whenever you can and feel the chemical change in your body. Get out doors and enjoy the world. Despite the challenges, it truly is a beautiful world we live in.

Start slow and build up to make exercise a regular part of your day and week. Focus on getting better, rather than being good. Improvement becomes the norm and if we take this into our relationships, we can focus on improving rather than thinking that it ought to be perfect.

If we appreciate that change is inevitable, therefore focusing on getting better rather than being perfect, we can alleviate anxiety. Enjoy the journey as well as the destination. Start today.

Reference:

  • Covey, S, 1989: Principle Centred Leadership

Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

comment Add Comment

Balance: continued refinement and attention to all of the following four areas in our lives

Often we find we live our lives narrowly focusing on work or home. Think about your life and the balance you maintain. Change is possible and often easier than you think.

The late Stephen Covey suggests consistent and continued refinement and attention to all of the following four areas in our lives:

  1. Physical;
  2. Intellectual;
  3. Social and
  4. Spiritual.

Attempting to balance exercise, nutrition and stress management (physical); by reading, visualising, planning and writing (Intellectual); focusing on clarifying values and our commitment, dedicating time to study, our faith and/or meditation (Spiritual); and through our service, being empathic, being synergistic and ensuring security (Social), ensures success.

Don’t get caught up in the demands of life and forget ourselves and our partner. Be proactive and do this for your relationship. “We are the instruments of our own performance, and to be effective, we need to recognize the importance of taking time to regularly sharpen the saw in all four ways”.

You don’t have to get it right the first time. This is part of life’s journey of learning and developing. You will get there if you are willing to invest the time and effort to developing new habits.

Reference:

  • Covey, S, 1989: Principle Centred Leadership

Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

comment Add Comment

Increasingly employees seek organisations that offer wellbeing programs covering physical, mental, financial and spiritual health

Employees are demanding additional benefits in the modern workplace including a wide range of programs for physical, mental, financial and spiritual health.

As the line between work and play continues to blur, employers are investing in wellbeing programs as both a social responsibility and a talent strategy. In a Deloitte survey of Australian organisations, 39% of respondents said they offer comprehensive wellbeing programs, including mindfulness, life balance and financial fitness.

If the statistics are true, various studies have demonstrated that employees who are happy in all aspects of their lives are happier and more productive employees.

  • Attempting to balance exercise, nutrition and stress management (physical); by reading, visualising, planning and writing (Intellectual); focusing on clarifying values and our commitment, dedicating time to study, our faith and/or meditation (Spiritual); and through our service, being empathic, being synergistic and ensuring security (Social), are likely to make a significant difference to us as a productive employee.
  • For our close and intimate relationships equally, it is essential that we continually review and draw attention to these areas to ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement. The importance of renewal in our lives can not be underestimated. Learning, growing and developing new capabilities and expanding on the old ones is the process through which marital harmony is made possible.
  • Seek an organisation that offers wellbeing programs or ask your company what can be offered. If they are already offered, take advantage of them and enjoy the holistic benefits.
  • In your relationship, seek to challenge the status quo and ensure an upward spiral of growth, change, and continuous improvement.

    Reference: https://www-businessinsider-com-au.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.businessinsider.com.au/workplace-trends-deloitte-human-capital-2018-4/amp

    Material used with permission of PREPARE/ENRICH Australia.

    Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

    Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

    Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

    comment Add Comment

    When relationships go wrong, couple distress is strongly linked to problems with individual health and well-being

    For the employee and for businesses, research suggests that happily married employees increase profitability (Turvey et al, 2006), and have the potential through strengthened relationships at home and with business partners to accelerate business growth.

    Conversely, when relationships go wrong, couple distress is strongly linked to problems with individual health and well-being (Lebow et al 2012), have serious health concerns, increased stress and anxiety, increased rates of depression and increased rates of substance abuse. These workers directly cost companies in absenteeism and higher turnover expenditures, and indirectly supporting less motivated and less healthy employees and through the societal effects of broken families. In Australia, research indicates divorce costs taxpayers an estimated $14 billion in federal and state expenditures annually (Andrews, 2012).

    The effect for future generations is also known. The children of couples who stay together – and therefore have both parents present in the house – are more likely to thrive in their well-being and education (McLanahan et al 2013).

    If relationships are integral to all aspects of a fulfilled life – from developing parenting skills, through to improving relationships with family and friends, to effectively communicating with colleagues and business partners, then it is in the interest of every organisation to assist employees to strengthen and build strong relationship skills. If marriage and family wellness improves a company’s overall financial health and increases profitability, it is then in every company’s best financial interest to support employees and to invest in the promotion of relational wellness to amplify the happiness and confidence of employees and to maximise business potential.

    Prevention programs are a great investment in employees with studies demonstrating that for every $1.00 invested in employee wellness programs, the return on investment is as high as $6.85 (Turvey et al, 2006).

    References:

    • Andrews, K. 2012: Maybe ‘I do’: modern marriage & the pursuit of happiness. Connor Court Publishing.
    • Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) – Marriage and divorces, Australia 2016.
    • McLanahan, S., Tach, L., & Schneider, D. 2013: The Causal Effects of Father Absence. Annual Review of Sociology, 39, 399-427.
    • Turvey, M. D., & Olson, D. H., 2006: Marriage & Family Wellness: Corporate America’s Business? A Marriage CoMission Research Report. Minneapolis, MN
    • Waite, L., & Gallagher, M. 2000: The case for marriage. New York: Doubleday.

    Material used with permission of PREPARE/ENRICH.

    Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

    Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

    Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

    comment Add Comment

    It is in the interest of every organisation to assist employees to strengthen and build strong relationship skills at work and at home

    We all know that work and family life are intertwined and research supports this demonstrating that employees who are highly committed to their roles as parents and spouses benefit companies. Conversely, employee performance and satisfaction occur easiest when outside influences like family are considered through workplace contracts and the provision of flexible work arrangements.

    Whilst Australia has seen a declining rate of marriage since 1947 – similar to other western nations – today more than 70% of women will marry in their lifetime, 1 in 5 marrying at least twice, with 4 in 5 couples living together before marriage (an increase from less than 1 in 5 in 1975). Lasting an average of 12 years, 1 in 3 of these relationships will end in divorce, most occurring in their primary producing years, around 45 for men and 43 for women in 2016 (ABS, 2016).

    Marriage however still confers certain unique benefits. Based on a wealth of academic research, married people tend to have healthier lifestyles, live longer, have more satisfying sexual relationships, have more economic assets, and have children that tend to do better academically and emotionally. When relationships go right, couples who stay together tend to be happier, healthier and ultimately wealthier (Waite & Gallagher 2000).

    For the employee and for businesses, research suggests that happily married employees increase profitability (Turvey et al, 2006), and have the potential through strengthened relationships at home and with business partners to accelerate business growth.

    Prevention programs are a great investment in employees with studies demonstrating that for every $1.00 invested in employee wellness programs, the return on investment is as high as $6.85 (Turvey et al, 2006).

    References:

    • Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) – Marriage and divorces, Australia 2016.
    • McLanahan, S., Tach, L., & Schneider, D. 2013: The Causal Effects of Father Absence. Annual Review of Sociology, 39, 399-427.
    • Turvey, M. D., & Olson, D. H., 2006: Marriage & Family Wellness: Corporate America’s Business? A Marriage CoMission Research Report. Minneapolis, MN
    • Waite, L., & Gallagher, M. 2000: The case for marriage. New York: Doubleday.

    Material used with permission of PREPARE/ENRICH.

    Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

    Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

    Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

    comment Add Comment

    Married people tend to have healthier lifestyles, live longer, have more satisfying sexual relationships

    Whilst Australia has seen a declining rate of marriage since 1947 – similar to other western nations – today more than 70% of women will marry in their lifetime, 1 in 5 marrying at least twice, with 4 in 5 couples living together before marriage (an increase from less than 1 in 5 in 1975). Lasting an average of 12 years, 1 in 3 of these relationships will end in divorce, most occurring in their primary producing years, around 45 for men and 43 for women in 2016 (ABS, 2016).

    Marriage, however, still confers certain unique benefits. Based on a wealth of academic research, married people tend to have healthier lifestyles, live longer, have more satisfying sexual relationships, have more economic assets, and have children that tend to do better academically and emotionally. When relationships go right, couples who stay together tend to be happier, healthier and ultimately wealthier (Waite & Gallagher 2000).

    Conversely, when relationships go wrong, couple distress is strongly linked to problems with individual health and well-being (Lebow et al 2012).

    The children of couples who stay together – and therefore have both parents present in the house – are more likely to thrive in their well-being and education (McLanahan et al 2013).

    References:

    • Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) – Marriage and divorces, Australia 2016.
    • Waite, L., & Gallagher, M. 2000: The case for marriage. New York: Doubleday.

    Material used with permission of PREPARE/ENRICH.

    Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM

    Keep up with the latest from the MAREAA online:

    Join us at www.mareaa.asn.au or sign up to our Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/bRigGf

    comment Add Comment

    Denise Lacey – the 2019 recipient of the Marriage and Relationship Educators Association of Australia (MAREAA) award for excellence

    Congratulations Denise Lacey on being the 2019 recipient of the Marriage and Relationship Educators Association of Australia (MAREAA) award for excellence.

    The award recognises outstanding or exceptional service or contribution to marriage and relationship education.

    It seeks to recognise those who meet two or more of the following criteria:

      Demonstrated excellent, consistent and innovative service to the field;
      Provided continuous outstanding service to the field;
      Implemented an outstanding or novel initiative;
      Made significant improvements to the content or process of relationship education;
      Shown a commitment to the ongoing development of the profession and;
      Shown dedication to the support and encouragement of others in the field.

    Denise has been a guiding light and beacon of MAREAA since 1992 and has gathered and inspired the committee and driven depth of connection and conversation that has been crucial to MAREAAs success.

    Quotes: “Denise has been a strong advocate for marriage education within government. She has been been involved in MRE for over twenty five years and has always had an infectious enthusiasm. Her dedication to the cause has been extraordinary”

    “Denise should be recognised for her leadership and drive, mentoring and support. She has amazing energy and passion”

    “Denise has been dedicated to the betterment of the field (of MRE) and been an active committee member of MAREAA and the former CSME for many years. Her leadership and drive and support of others has been nothing short of amazing.”

    Congratulations to the deserved winner of the MAREAA Award for Excellence: Denise Lacey.

    Congratulations Denise.

    Shane Smith

    Director, PREPARE/ENRICH Australia

    President, Marriage and Relationship Educators Association of Australia Inc.

    comment Add Comment

    When life hands you lemons… Managing the unexpected occurrences in relationships! ONLY 3 DAYS TO GO!

    MAREAA Joint National and Victorian State Conference, Cardinal Knox Centre, East Melbourne

    6 – 9 pm Friday, August 2 and
    9 – 5 pm Saturday, August 3, 2019

    Check out the following Video from Toni Powell. When Toni Powell’s husband asked her to marry him, she learned an important lesson…

    https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=2186966888194877

    Toni is an author, TEDx speaker, mentor, mother, relationship buff, recovering worrywart, social entrepreneur and wife…Toni is a passionate researcher and communicator about the wisdom behind enduring relationships, what makes people tick and the how-to of wellbeing and happiness.

    Well regarded as both a thought leader and an entertaining speaker frequently interviewed on ABC radio on programs such as ‘Life Matters’ and ‘Focus’. Toni was guest lecturer at The Positive Education Institute’s renowned ‘Insight Series’, the opening Keynote at Positive Schools Conference and is a much loved regular at Happiness & Its Causes Conference.

    Great speakers on topics such as Internal Family Systems, Grief and Loss and Stress and Changes in couples over the decades.

    Know anyone who should attend… Registration is still available. Click here to register.

    https://mareaa.asn.au/join-now/mareaa-joint-national-and-victorian-state-conference-2019/

    Register Now

    Conference Fees:
    MAREAA Members $159 per person
    (Including Friday supper and Saturday morning & afternoon tea, lunch and coffee/tea throughout and all handout materials).
    Friday only including supper $60
    Saturday only including lunch $140

    Non-MAREAA Members $199 per person
    (Including Friday supper and Saturday morning & afternoon tea, lunch and coffee/tea throughout and all handout materials).
    Friday only including supper $75
    Saturday only including lunch $170

    Student/Unemployed/Concession $145 per person

    *Special – Annual Membership $60.00 per person

    Need help or assistance to register? Email us: admin@mareaa.asn.au,
    or Shane Smith 0414993347

    Conference Program

    August 2, 2019
    6:00 pm Registration
    6:30 pm Welcome to Country
    6:45 pm Toni Powell
    7:50 pm Supper
    9:00 pm Close of Evening

    August 3, 2019
    8:00 – 9:00 am Registration
    9:00 am Opening
    9:30 am ‘Internal Family Systems’ – Dr. Danielle Williamson & David Eckle –
    11:00 am Morning Tea
    11:30 am ‘Intimacy from the Inside Out’ – Dr. Danielle Williamson & David Eckle –
    1:00 pm Lunch
    2:00 pm Panel Discussion – Peter Norden, Leonie Nolan, Amanda Smith-
    2:45 pm Afternoon Tea
    3:15 pm. Amanda Lambros – The Grief Recovery Method
    4:45 pm Feedback
    5:00 pm MAREAA AGM
    Wine and cheese

    Looking forward to seeing you there!

    Regards,
    Shane Smith
    MAREAA President

    comment Add Comment

    MAREAA National Conference 2-3 August 2019, special day rate available: When life hands you lemons… Managing unexpected occurrences in relationships

    Topics ranging from Wellbeing and Happiness, Internal Family Systems and Grief and Loss and Stress, don’t miss out on yet another quality MAREAA event.

    When life hands you lemons… Managing the unexpected occurrences in relationships!

    $159 Members
    [Friday only $60; Saturday $140]
    $199 Non-Members 
    [Friday only $75; Saturday $170]
    $60 Annual Membership Special

    Great speakers on topics such as Internal Family Systems, Grief and Loss and Stress and Changes in couples over the decades.

    Conference Program

    TONI POWELL, Speaker & Educator

    Toni is an author, TEDx speaker, mentor, mother, relationship buff, recovering worrywart, social entrepreneur and wife…Toni is a passionate researcher and communicator about the wisdom behind enduring relationships, what makes people tick and the how-to of wellbeing and happiness.

    Well regarded as both a thought leader and an entertaining speaker frequently interviewed on ABC radio on programs such as ‘Life Matters’ and ‘Focus’. Toni was guest lecturer at The Positive Education Institute’s renowned ‘Insight Series’, the opening Keynote at Positive Schools Conference and is a much loved regular at Happiness & Its Causes Conference.

    DR. DANIELLE WILLIAMSON

    A registered clinical psychologist, an approved supervisor and lecturer at Swinburne University in both the Counselling & Clinical psychology programs. She has a particular interest in treating trauma-related issues in adults, and has co-founded the Women’s Trauma Recovery Program in partnership with David Eckel.

    Danielle works in private practice at Parkside Psychology, seeing adolescents, adults & couples with a wide range of presenting issues. Internal Family Systems therapy resonates for Danielle as it provides a way to listen deeply and be present with her own parts, and the parts and Self of others. It’s exciting to share this approach and explore the different applications for people across therapy and non-therapy settings.

    DAVID ECKLE

    Mr. David Eckel is an accredited mental health social worker with over 13 years experience counselling adults in community health, specializing in the areas of PTSD & complex trauma, GLBTIQ mental health and alcohol & other drugs. David has worked in counselling, project work and clinical supervision roles at IPC Health, VIC AIDS Council and Access Health and Community.

    He is passionate about trauma treatment and is an EMDR practitioner, Level One and Two trained Internal Family Systems Therapist. David is also a trained creative arts therapist and experienced in supervision and training, having previously taught at the Australian College of Applied Psychology (ACAP).

    AMANDA LAMBROS

    Director of The Grief Recovery Institute (AUS/NZ) – The only evidence-based program in the world which directly addresses grief and loss and helps grievers move beyond the pain caused by loss.

    Amanda is an Author, TEDx Speaker, Relationship Educator and Clinical Supervisor. She’s also a wife to her complete opposite and a mother to two young boys who have more energy than the sun! She is beyond passionate and biased on the topics of relationships, Mental Health and Grief and Loss.

    Register Now

    Conference Fees:
    (Including Friday dinner and Saturday morning & afternoon tea, lunch and coffee/tea throughout and all handout materials).
    MAREAA Members $159.00 per person
    Friday only including supper $60
    Saturday only including lunch $140

    Non-MAREAA Member $199.00 per person
    Friday only including supper $75
    Saturday only including lunch $170

    Student/Unemployed/Concession $145 per person

    *Special – Annual Membership $60.00 per person

    Registration is available now. Click here to register for this exciting educators’ conference.

    Register Now

    MAREAA National AGM 2019

    The MAREAA National Committee would like to invite all current, past and potential members and supporters to the Marriage and Relationship Educators’ Association of Australia 25th Annual General Meeting, to be held on Saturday August 3 2019, 5.00pm at the Cardinal Knox Centre, 383 Albert Street (cnr Lansdowne Street), East Melbourne, VIC 3002

    Be part of a national organisation dedicated to the advancement of Marriage and Relationship Education throughout Australia.