When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions

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Written By shane smith

When conflict arises, try to communicate assertively and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and try to focus solely on the issue at hand.

If the argument starts to get out of hand, ask for a "time out." Taking 5 to 20 minutes away from your partner will calm you enough to allow you to listen better and discuss the subject objectively rather than emotionally. Soothe yourself by taking deep breaths, a short walk, or even a short drive.

Consider the following issues that arise when facing conflict with our partner:

  • Consider conflict resolution vs. conflict management – What is the difference between resolving an issue and managing an issue?

  • Is it a failure if you and your partner can’t resolve a conflict?

  • Are there some conflicts that need to be managed because they can never be completely resolved?

Commit to loyalty and openness and when you have an issue, seek to resolve it with consideration for the relationship first. By doing this, you and your partner are being accountable for the application of these skills into your life and thus strengthening your relationship.

Marriage and Relationship Education is a learning opportunity, much like you would do in any other important life event. Check out the video for couples on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xyuUl-JnIhM.

Tune in next week for more discussion about relationships and mental health. 

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Written by Shane Smith
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